Let’s be honest, even the steamiest relationships can hit a bit of a lull now and then. Life gets in the way: work, stress, kids, laundry piles the size of small mountains… we get it. But if the spark has dimmed a little, fear not. You don’t need to book a fancy retreat or stage a grand gesture to bring the excitement back: sometimes, a few fun tweaks are all it takes.
Here are some playful, pleasure-filled tips to help turn the heat back up…
You don’t need an acting degree to give this a go, just a bit of imagination and a sense of humour. Whether you fancy being the boss and employee, the cheeky stranger at the bar, or the classic delivery person scenario (you know the one), role play gives you a chance to step outside the everyday and explore new dynamics in the bedroom. Bonus points for a bit of dress-up!
If you haven’t explored sex toys together yet, where have you been?! Vibrators, couples’ rings, love eggs and remote-controlled toys can add a whole new level of excitement and intimacy. A couple’s vibrator can stimulate both of you at once, while a cock ring can help keep things going longer and stronger.
Not sure where to start? Try a rabbit vibrator for dual-action pleasure, or a remote-controlled love egg for cheeky public play (date night just got a whole lot more interesting!).
We know it sounds unsexy, but putting intimacy on the calendar can be surprisingly hot. Knowing you’ve set aside time for connection builds anticipation. And anticipation is sexy.
Have a fantasy you’ve always wanted to try but never dared to mention? Now’s the time. Open up, get chatting, and create a safe, judgement-free space to share. You might find you’re both up for more than you thought.
Sometimes it’s not about what you’re doing, but where. Try a different room, a hotel night away, or even just switching up your bedroom lighting and music to set a new mood.
Mutual masturbation is a hugely intimate act, and a brilliant way to learn more about what turns you both on. Light some candles, grab your favourite sex toys (we’re looking at you, wand vibrator), and show each other what feels good.
Final thought
Reigniting the spark doesn’t mean your love life is broken, it just means you’re ready to explore, reconnect and rediscover each other. And honestly, what could be more exciting than that?
If you’re ready to spice things up, our shop is full of fun, flirty toys to help get you started. Browse sex toys here.
Published on: April 25, 2025
Written by: Mel
