“Woman on top” positions give control, connection, and often more stimulation for all involved. Whether you’re chasing better curves, deeper angles, or just wanting to feel more involved, here are five great variations to try, with our top tips to up the pleasure game…
Probably the most well-known. The person on top straddles their partner, facing them, hands on thighs or chest.
Why it works: Control over speed, depth and angle. Great for face-to-face connection and letting your partner see how you want it.
Tip: Lean forward a little to switch up the angle- this can hit the G-spot nicely. Use hands for support so you don’t tire out quickly.
Perfect sex toy: Use a wand vibrator to stimulate your clitoris at the same time: double the stimulation means extra-intense orgasms!
Same setup as classic, but facing away from your partner.
Why it works: It changes the view, adds variety, and the angle tends to be more “backside focussed”, which many enjoy.
Tip: Use knees or feet planted firmly: balance is everything. Lean back slightly to find the sweet spot without putting too much pressure on knees.
Perfect sex toy: Reverse cowgirl naturally highlights your bum, so why not make the most of it? Add a butt plug or anal vibrator to the mix for even more pleasure and intensity.
Rather than sitting down, the person on top squats over their partner.
Why it works: More thigh engagement, deeper penetration potential, and it can feel more active and intense.
Tip: Keep feet solid, maybe widen stance. If it gets tiring, shift into a semi-squat/back-lean or mix with other positions.
Perfect sex toy: If you enjoy nipple stimulation, why not give nipple clamps a try? Designed to intensify sensation, nipple clamps tighten as the chain is pulled.
A more intimate, slower-burn position. The giving partner sits up with legs crossed or stretched out, while the person on top sits facing them, wrapping legs around or resting them by their sides.
Why it works: Lots of skin-on-skin contact, kissing, intimacy and eye contact. Great for exploring, not just full thrusting.
Tip: Use hands to support each other- on shoulders, hips, back. Go slow to feel every movement.
Perfect sex toy: Tingling lubricant makes this intimate position even hotter. These lubes give a tingling sensation for heightened pleasure. Make sure to choose a water-based lube so it’s safe for use with toys and condoms.
The top partner straddles the bottom partner, but sits more to one side- perpendicular, rather than square.
Why it works: Can relieve pressure on knees, change sensation, give different access for hands and toys. Also makes for erotic angles.
Tip: Let the bottom partner do the supporting where possible: hold the hips, thighs to help stability. Add gentle grinding or use a vibrator for extra buzz.
Perfect sex toy: The receiver can stimulate their clitoris by rubbing up against the giver’s bent leg. Or, for extra clitoral stimulation, try a suction toy like a rose vibrator, designed to provide intense clitoral stimulation with a soft, luxurious touch.
Not every variation will be perfect first time; try a few, mix them up, communicate and adjust until you find what feels best for both of you. And don’t forget to add a few of our recommended sex toys into the mix for added fun!
Published on: 05/10/2025
Written by: Mel
